What I do know is, guys (several that I have talked to) have compared us. It’s ALWAYS the two extremes. One of the guys she was super into said, after a couple encounters with me, "She's just... gosh unempathetic." I have a couple problems with this statement. I'm all for constructive criticism but no part of this was constructive. I was more dumbfounded than anything because I am in the helping field. I've been a counselor, an advocate, an ad litem, and an emergency crisis responder... empathy is in my job description. Does he need to see my results for the Myers Briggs Personality Test? I have my results laminated. Okay-- not really but, guh, I was baffled by his response! He doesn't know me enough to even judge my level of empathy, nor did he take into account that alcohol was involved. Then again, I guess I don't know him enough to judge him as an ass but, I did :). One of the guys (actually more than one) has explicitly stated that my best friend is "not that pretty." I'm not sure if it was a sideways way of offering me a compliment, but it always goes something like this: "you're so much prettier than her." I don't know what kind of response they expected... "thanks, I agree?" Maybe it was an attempt to boost my basement-level self-esteem but, putting down my best friend sure as hell isn't the way to do it. Other times, their comparisons are more of, "I don't know why you think she's prettier than you." I guess I should keep that to myself, woops. I do have a fact-founded reason of why this comment is still not as reassuring as they projected. I've had, on more than one occasion, guys tell me, in passing that, "well, she's hotter anyway." Or something to that effect.... Feel free to replace hott with any other derogatave: sexier, prettier, or cuter. This comment is usually always in response to me not giving them what they wanted, in one form or another. Sorry, but I wasn't put on this earth to meet your physical needs and you complimenting my best friend doesn't offend me-- yet, your opinion is no longer valued. Comparing a pair of best friends is like comparing apples to oranges.Apples VS. Oranges T VS. S Blonde VS. Brunette They are both sweet fruits often found in desserts to illuminate their sweet flavors, yet never in the same dessert or same form. Neither mix well in cookies nor would you easily find either of them on the candy isle. Both are great juiced and are vital for breakfast accompaniments, yet neither is superior at breakfast because it is all based on preference. The same is true with blondes and brunettes. Personally, I tend to fall head over heals for brunettes; can’t provide substantial evidence as to why, it’s just what I end up being drawn to. The same is true for probably at least half of the population with blondes. I know this is the case in many Asian countries because there are no natural blonde hair color so they are drawn to the color. Same is true actually with African Americans. I have a very dear friend that reported to being in countless Asian family portraits by complete strangers; walking down the baking isle, FLASH Kodac Moment, after finishing an orchestra concert, FLASH Kodac Moment, and even at the urinal! Okay… I have embellished one of those but they all were taken without consent. I guess you have to acknowledge their perseverance? I can only say that because it hasn’t happened to me but, there’s curly brunettes everywhere and usually you can’t decipher the natural from the permed or ironed. With blondes, you typically have an idea if they are natural or not. Regardless, some believe with their heart of hearts that blondes really do have more fun… I like to believe blondes have more fun WITH a brunette friend… but maybe I’m just biased. All the desserts I stumbled upon did not harness harmony with these two dominant fruits so I decided to share a drink recipe this time. Bottoms up Blondey and Brunettey? A Dessert You Can Drink1 oz bourbon and 1 oz orange liqueur and bring it together with a standard American hard cider. If you want to get fancy, slice two thin slices of apple and zest ¼ of an orange to garnish.
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