In continuation of the boy's view... I had to set the soundtrack to the tune of this peanut butter and JAM from back in the day! #youtubeitnowThis project with polling friends, strangers, crushes, ex-flings, ex-wanna-be-flings, guys I've never met, and people I've only met once and there was a high probability we were intoxicated has really opened up the avenue for expression. Some of these responses were 10X longer than the quote submitted.Some responses were "off the record" while others lasted deep into the night. The benefit from the raw responses is obscene, for me at least. I hope you've found some sort of enjoyment in them--- maybe even a tilt in perception?"Girls like excitement and different things excite them at different phases of their life. At some point for some people its hittin the club or jumpin on and off a jet. If they see someone that can facilitate what excites them it attracts them. Nice guys are mostly shy and respectful. Most of their moves are calculated and I'm assuming they're also focused on a goal or something passion related. This is not always exciting because it might mean not going out all the time, telling the girl at the bar you think she's gorgeous, or doing other whimsical things." "Maybe just cuz the girls are dumb 😂" "I started to portray bad guy tendencies because I was always the good guy. I think there is a balance. Just have to figure out what works." "Two possibilities spring to mind here. The first is that the women in question are just incredibly immature to the point that they still crave excitement over stability. The other option is that there is an inherent desire to build something with your partner. If the guy you’re dating doesn’t own anything other than the motorcycle he picks you up on and the clothes on his back you’ve got a blank slate if the guy you’re dating owns a house has a good full-time job and a great credit score you have to make your life fit into his." "Simple. Bad is fun, or it seems that way. The highs seem higher because the lows are so much lower... who doesn’t love adrenaline?" "Most girls tend to date assholes bc they want that tough guy. If a guy is too nice, they think, he's not tough- he can't protect me." "because bad boys trigger attraction in a woman subconsciously. they display certain qualities or the illusion of. a “good” guy doesn’t trigger attraction; things like being a leader of men, protector of loved ones,they also give masculine energy and embody it. Whereas, a good guy in this day and age is more in tune with feminine energy in a world where men are raised by women, it's not really shocking. A bad boy will take a pic of girl in lingerie. A good boy will ask before taking the pic. By asking, the women lose attraction immediately on such a deeper subconscious level." "I don't know, Steph. I asked myself that question all the time." "One thought is that original sin came from Eve...so naturally women gravitate toward the “badder” of the bad guys. But that would be only if I wanted to start an argument. 🤣" "I've tried to get girls to drop the bad boy type a few times." "So, for 6 years, I was the bad guy to a beautiful soul. It wasn’t so much that I was a “bad guy”, i just grew up super rough and it made me appreciate the fine things in life. Yeah, I was wild and crazy, but I loved that girl with everything that I had, and did everything I could to keep her happy. I was her first boyfriend, first kiss, first everything, and we worked. Not only would I have given up anything for her, I think the excitement of new things for her was an attraction. Our families never really got along, her family hated me for “ruining” their daughter, no matter how much we loved each other. It got to be way too stressful, so like an idiot, i broke things off." "I would have been considered a "bad guy" when i was a youngster. 19-24ish. Trying to speak in code here...i was living a fast paced life style with money and access to things. The allure of the unknown is what i would say is so intriguing to young people men and woman alike. Now that i am older the bad guy thing has an entirely diff meaning." "A beta male is insecure. He is always going to text you, going to tell you he loves you and are pretty with lines. An alpha male has a foundation and is always going to be there for you but not always remember to tell you he loves you. A bad boy is more like a betta that has no concern for anyone but himself. He doesn't care about your emotions or tailoring things to you and part of that is how are you were raised specifically in relation to your father's role. He'll only give you attention when he wants to, kind of like a cat. When the cat gives you attention, you're like oh my gosh this is so great let me pet you! But when you want to pet the cat, it's nowhere to be seen." “I’m guessing here... dating a ‘bad’ guy may represent higher social currency as bad guys are usually troubled or emotionally unavailable. Another theory may suggest people like projects and the idea of changing or helping a bad dude improve seems interesting." "Girls like a guy with an edge. "Bad" guys will get girls over a guy who is perceived as boring every time. Then girls wanna complain why they cant get a "good" guy." " I think women love the chase. I think everyone loves the chase. We all want what we can have. I think it starts off as maybe enjoying being around each other. I think also a lot of guys have got hurt and dont wanna deal with it again and they wont try. But they also wont communicate with you about it. We also live in a society where more is better. So why be monogamous when you can have a ton of bitches! Hahah. But those are my thoughts. Everyone is different and depends on the person." "Because people are inherently stupid?" "I'm gonna cop out and say I think it depends on the woman. The only "real" answer is that it gives them something they want. Maybe she's lonely, or doesn't like to be lonely so she just grabs the first guy who pays her real attention. Which is usually some "bad guy" who just wants to get laid steady. Or for the night lol. Sometimes they see "good guys" as boring and they want some excitement in their lives. The list is very very long because each woman is looking for a different thing, wether they realize it or not. I don't think a woman says "you know what, Melvin the Engineer is a boring guy, I'm going to go down to the club and find a jerk because at least there will be something of note in my life," but subconsciously they make decisions based on what benefits them/gives them whatever it is they're looking for." "Haha I am an ex-bad boy, I hung up my badness in 2013 I believe. I'm just old now haha. Most of the girls that dated me then was because i was unpredictable, adventurous, never dull and for a select few it was to piss off their parents basically. But those relationships are always short lived or they could be hardly classified as relationships. Mainly just summer flings. And most bad boys end up like me living a mundane existence and single lol unless they settle down early or continue to be fuckboys well into their 40s I'm that kinda middle ground I guess? " "That kinda brings up another topic. You can't control who you're attracted to, but you CAN control who you dwell on or invest time in. At what point does the "badness" outweigh that attractionIt could also be statistics, too. It sounds like there are a lot more bad boys out there than good guys, maybe the good/bad part is irrelevant and it's something unrelated that attracts someone. But since there are statistically more bad boys, there is a better chance of finding someone you're attracted to who happens to be a bad boy." "My theory is as follows: women are nurturers and have been since the beginning of time. When a "good girl" sees a "bad guy" they are attracted to them because it's not what they are used to...it's "exciting" I suppose. So as nurturers the "good girl" wants to tame the wild beast 😂 She wants to make him change his ways and show all the other females that she was the one to conquer the untamable. But the funny thing is people don't change unless they want to. So it usually ends up a big heartbreaky mess. So the moral of the story is you have to love someone for who they are, not what you want them to be." The sweet side of bad boys can be illustrated by a Snickers Drama Cheesecake. It will dance on your tatsebuds, never last as long as you want, and caters to your nutty side...A girl that can see what she's getting into and still indulge, truly is a degree of nuts (guilty as this chocolate covered sin). For the crust::
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