To continue with the worth theme, I took a survey of 45 people with the prompt: What has had the greatest effect on your self-worth? Both negative and positive.I would say for me personally negative is how I compare myself to others or others “view” of me. Positive is feeling like I made a difference and praise or appreciation or acknowledgement from other people (which I get none of in the office). I think the best was probably work in general. No one moment or anything, just being viewed as an adult who knows what they’re doing and to actually be able to do big things Probably the same on the negative, no one moment, but in general I would say my mom. Directly and indirectly she was responsible for a ton of negative thing. But thanks to my dad, most of the negative has been turned to positive/maturing I've always been a bigger guy which isn't usually favored in the gay community but I've always thought highly of since high school. I'm not for everyone and that's fine....I think I'm sexy extra pounds and all. My sense of humor on point although not everyone gets it. There have been times i used to think if i lost weight i could catch all the men but tha But those were fleeting thoughts. It then became "fuck anyone who cant get with me the way I am". Shit I'm fabulous I feel My self worth increases every time I am able to help someone with something major in their life or meet a goal that is important to them. The only thing that impacts my self worth negatively is my own mentality towards myself Negative: relationships and the when the cowboys suck positive: my English bulldog and baby boy Negative-past relationships positive family members and hope that everything will be fine in the end Negative: not being heard/listened to/taken seriously by people I'm close with has a lot of impact on me Positive: feeling like I'm worth more than my body,,,,? A lot of people seem to only care about my dumb physical form, so when I'm treated as important whether I'm having a good hair day or a bad bout of acne that just makes me feel so good and important !!! Losing all my phone contacts and having no one I spoke to regularly try and contact me in over three weeks was a pretty big hit to my self esteem Being continually recommended for projects and promotions at work is a pretty big boost to that part of my self esteem Relationships intimately and friendships can hinder and boost worth. The negative weighs me down. I can’t remember the last time I’ve been lifted by someone Mine are what others think of me Probably my high school friends and teachers positive wise I would love to help out! I have been affected by my family growing up the most and has made me question my worth. My mom was a narcissist and overcontrolling tiger mom did not instill confidence in me.. relationships probably - meaning all: family, friends, people i’m involved with. Interesting. Self worth for everyone comes from what they assign to it. For me it progress. Whether it be in my career, studies or in the gym. As long as I am moving forward everything is all good. Conversely, I do not derive my opinions on self worth from others. Be it comparison to their progress or comments made. For we are all on our own journey. Always forward, never back. Relationships whether romantic or not is root of someone’s self worth. How they’re bf treated them, how their parents treated them, how they’re friends abandoned them over years, the pressure a parent puts on themselves bc they don’t think they’re dosing enough. The professional relationship that a person has with the community. The relationship a person even has with themselves All forms of relationships are the root of some someone’s self’s worth The biggest contributor to my self worth has been finally trusting/listening to my gut/intuition! I suppose relarionships, not exclusicely romantic. I would say co workers in general play a huge role in self worth. A lot of co workers especially if they're older can really talk down to you and make you feel worthless to try and break you down for various reasons, one could be they're jealous or they're scared that you could come for their position in the future Negative, would be from a family member, specifically my brother. Years of being put down. Positive.. is a little trickier. While I do like reassurance often, especially in relationships. I think I am really what brought myself up in the self worth department. But it fluctuates Also I think where I work now had a pretty big impact on me as well And it was the first time I wasn’t in charge if you will. So I know it was genuine. Definitely failure (in general) and learning from it Relationships are both for me. From my perspective any situation you go through is kind of filtered through your support system (friends, family, etc.). Those interactions in your times of excitement or disappointment are what affect your self worth most. Then there are the strangers. In some cases, completely faceless and/or nameless, strangers can have a very small influence on a person's self worth or monumental effect. This is determined by the person being recieving the words, criticisms or whatever it may be from said people. Hope that makes sense. That's just how my mind works. Won't go as far as to say this is true for everyone. My self worth goes down when like I know my family’s disappointed in me about something or when I’ve been drinking too much I start to get depressed and think I’m a shitty person. Or like when I don’t have a man in my life I’ll start to feel like what’s wrong with me my self worth feels greater when guys like me lol like when I’m getting praised by a man or being complimented or just when I’m doing good for myself and have everything in order I’m like oh man I’m the best there is haha Judgement on myself. Wanting to better myself, therefore judging myself. I think my long time boyfriend breaking up with me has really forced me to know myself for who I really am and has made me value myself much more. I think being single for a while after being in a relationship for so long had made me realize what I want and what I don’t want in a relationship. I think my long time boyfriend breaking up with me has really forced me to know myself for who I really am and has made me value myself much more. I think being single for a while after being in a relationship for so long had made me realize what I want and what I don’t want in a relationship. I would say negative would be judgement passed by people you love and positive relationships! No clue. I earned my worth I would have to say the way other people see me. Being a “fat kid” getting bullied was negative but the positive was it made me want to change and I did. It sucks seeing the way you are treated when you’re the da Boosting it, I've had moments where the same thing that boosted it killed it. There was a time when I used to have a thing for sleeping with married women, (or relationships) and just knowing that I could "fuck your bitch" gave me a little self esteem and ego boost. Then later on in life after I got cheated on, it kinda made me feel like shit. But I guess the biggest self esteem killer, is myself. I lay alone often times at night thinking about lots of little things that happened to me over my life and wonder why they happened to me and why the people did that to me. And it makes me wonder if I'm even worth a damn. Maybe I'd be better off dead, or at least worth more to everyone. And as far as a self esteem booster, well... my work ethic. I haven't been more than 30 days without work since I was 13 years old. I know I'm a hell of a provider and a fucking machine. Not only do I maintain jobs, I have hard, physically strenuous and rigorous jobs that break a lot of people, and I excel in them. I love labor, I get a kick out of someone saying "you wont be able to do that alone, itll take you forever" and then I get it done in a day lol. I love it. Boss tells me 9 years is not enough experience and believes in young “Greatest effect on me, is realizing my roll on earth, could be the totality of effects greatest. positive earning money by myself and watching Roger Federer, finishing college, negative I don't know, not geting enough attention from boss for my hard work these are some examples at least Most negative was my grandma when I was a teenager. She always had something negative to say about me both personality wise and physically. For sure, to be honest people you work around Is like a relationship. When things are great that special someone can make you feel on top of the world but when things are bad they can make you question yourself. To me it's no different than a co worker relationship. They can praise you and almost make you feel a little cocky like "I'm the shit" kind of feeling, but you mess up one thing and then they'll make you feel like you're on the chopping block. It can happen so fast, and I see it a ton in my industry. Most positive, in all honesty, my fiance. He always makes me feel better about myself, my choices, situations- even in the middle of an argument. I'd have to say Relationships on both sides. It starts with family. Both positive and negative, it all depends on how you grow up. The more love you're shown, the more confidence you're taught, all determines the self worth you teach yourself growing up, and what sticks into adulthood. Oooooo thats an interesting one and complex. Negatively i would say judgement passed on by people you love bc sadly people believe more ftom those they are close too and it just gets stored in their subconscious forever until triggered by present situations. Positively, honestly i feel yourself, if you cannot give yourself love, respect, and truely believe it, you will never set the standard for others to treat you. So i feel self reflection is the butter to our bread [self worth]. I think too many people are too worried about what others think Is it super shallow to say how I look? But in like a health way lol like I feel better when my body is acting at max capacity Like working out and eating right kinda stuffI was in a bad car accident a few years ago and I wasn’t able to work out for a while and it really weighed negatively on my self esteem Well I've been shaped a lot by my faith. I suppose that's had a big impact on my self worth. I was a really shy teen and had some pretty bad experiences in school. Won't go into details right now but it left me feeling worthless and alone. It was when I went to college that I made the decision to stop being shy. Started forcing myself to be social and turns out that I can get people to like m me fairly easily just by being myself once I discovered that I started feeling way better in terms of self worth. A job offer brings me self worth Supportive healthy work environment Doing something for myself to make me feel pretty like pampering. Divorce and being left is my overwhelming negative. Being cheated on tanks your self-worth. Others opinion of me negatively affects my self-worth. Stay tuned for reflection and stats of these soon ;))
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