I guess in an extremely confident manner, I had a flaming desire to show him what he wasn't aware he needed..... I shared my -2 vision for settling and positive 1.75 for flying beyond the limits. He shared sparingly. I was ready to cut the frayed losses when he exhibited intelligence. He became intrigued with the honesty in my writing and I laced up my apron. Conditioning began with jumping to digital messages; he wouldn't think twice about my suggestion under altered conditions after the bewitching hour. He layered words appealing to a single girl's ears with honest observations. Although his technique was transparent, my interest had peaked. Lips locked, my rom-com narrator followed me through the steps if 6 through 9. I broke my hard-to-get rules to "live a little." Like I said, there was no step by step for this one, so I flew by the seat of his immature pants. I'm not saying he was young, but I felt young when I was with him. Few and far between since he was transfixed with other flavors; he had to "taste the rainbow." Skittles boy, with no real desire to walk away from the vending machine, still held a sweetness I couldn't resist. I'm not faulting him-- I've been there... Hell, I didn't fumble with change; I had the key. I'm not certain I wanted the vending machine key anymore. He could sense my hankering for junk food was fleeting, so he made sure to convey with explicit reasons, why he needed the rainbow. I'd like to think I could have colored his perception, but deserted desire makes the point moot. So, arguably I was pushed out and and am still taking steps. Ironic that Steph is having trouble stepping away from this one. Meanwhile, row A through D is calling me from my vending machine. One foot. No, no, forward. Don't look down. Put the Candy Crushers out of sight and get back into your own mind. I guess in an extremely confident manner, I had a flaming desire to show him what he wasn't aware he needed. The spontaneity of trips and song lyrics, the Swagger of a frolicker, and the appetite of eviction in all categories.
The painful puns, crescendoing to roof-shaking cackling, and goofy grins shot from all directions with 100% accuracy of hitting its target. The foundation of a female with a campfire heart, crackling with faith and ambition. Open minded ears, empathetic eyes, and a freckled embrace, but those weren't his parts of interest. He dismissed every playful accusation, even though I knew their validity. The chase drove me up a wall and then drove me nowhere at all. There's no pinterest instructions for this DIY.
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There's an obscene number of married guys that have hit me up both online and in person. My initial reaction was "what kind of girl do you think I am?" But then, I was overcome with grief and disgust of the type of man they are.... and his wife probably doesn't know the degree of his questionable character.The amount of emotional havoc a person inflicts on their partner is colossal. I wish they would be reminded of that before they cheat....A wedding is the ideal place to reflect on your current relationship, or lack of one. The best part is, this reflection is usually 100% unintentional and subconsciously sneaks in. This was certainly the case at the 3rd wedding I've been to this year, also being in Texas (first in Fort Worth, second Dallas, and third Austin). This realization of my singleness, was overcast by disappointment in the overwhelming number of disloyal people. We've all had someone we were committed to step out on us with someone else (I'm certain) but, the emotional cheating and constant lusting toward new faces is uncanny. At this beautiful wedding in hill country that my sister and I attended, was gushing with married or taken guys that continued to gravitate their eyes toward us. I'm not talking just a gentle smile or quick glance, I'm talking full-on stare! My sister pointed two out to me, as I pointed out another to her. Rings fastened on their left hand couldn't fasten their eyes to the person with the matching metal. I know there's a couple ways this could be interpreted:
I don't think it's "Disney of me" to believe a man can be faithful or a woman can be faitful if they are in love and down-right committed. My heart of hearts believes if you love someone, truly love someone, it's almost as if the other sex becomes less inticing. Sure, six-pack abs are alluring and guys' or even girls' eyes may wander to a pair of double-d's but, their heart and attention belongs to their person in this crummy little world. Although I have quite the dating record and I've earned the reputation of being a bit of a player, once love is on the table, there's no room for any other games or players. Put the CandyLand away. The last, and only time I've been in love, was to a man I couldn't have even fantasized of being with someone else. I was so taken with him and was prepared to give up everything for him-- hell, I practically did! I know loyalty wasn't even a question with him, nor was it for me. And I know I have a tendency to be quite naive, but it's the God's honest truth. Tat's why it's so heartbreaking to see these guys in committed relationships looking for more. The point of being in love, is to look no further. So get off your lustful ass and find your one and only and stop trying to have your cake and eat it too! Find Your Cherry On Top..... and if you're married, you should've already found em2 cans Crescent Rolls
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Your presence is a constant buzzing. Yellow Jacket edge with peripheral admiration. Flashes of freedom with wings of resistance. Pollinating my schedule as you please, you create your own fragrance. After combing through your expressions of affection, I've rejected your honey as worthy. So share your sap with someone else! No, he didn't have 7 children. No, he doesn't detest music... At least my knowledge. No, he isn't trying to run from the Nazis. It all started with a remark. A drunken remark at a bar. I know what you're thinking... The infamous adventures of me and my blonde best friend in yet again another third wheel date. I've been on so many, I could probably start a blog post just for those adventures... But, they're not as exciting. At least not to me.. And she's probably only been on three or she was the third., but hey! We each serve our role in this friendship. It just looks a little different than what people are used to. Anywho! The roommate of the guy she was dating made his way over to our brunch spot with his best friend. The two of them were fairly pleasant on the eyes, but his roommate is definitely a dude bro. His friend, on the other freckled hand, is a goofball in a Hawaiian shirt. With a drunk slur and conversation in a high decibel, conversation at the table roared. Flirting commenced, but not enough to be extremely memorable. Then, I was pressed between the two guys in the back seat of my best friend's date's Caddy. We made our way to a tiki hut bar fit for a Jimmy Buffett song. While at the bar, conversation continued as we soaked up the scene, Sun, and Saturday. It was actually Sunday but I didn't want to say son in Sunday next to each other. ;)) After a couple shots that this independent girl bought on her own, I accidentally brushed up against Mr. Vontrapp's back while he was seated at the bar. Yes, he saw two girls standing behind him and chose to seat at the bar. Chivalry is not dead... But it's a very, very rare. I get up when I'm seated when an older lady walks around. But.... What can you do? If you hold everyone to the standard you have for yourself, you're going to be disappointed every time. That's something I've learned the Robert Frost, gravel, broken glass, "Road Less Traveled" way. Well, apparently my boobs brushed against his back which drove him crazy. I'm not really used to having bigger boobs because my whole life has been flat chested and the vice president of the Itty Bitty Titty Committee. Well, he instantly bought me like two cocktails. I guess it was a balanced diet, a drink in each hand. It was revealed that he had a girlfriend and it was deemed complicated. Out of respect, I tone down the flirting to a 1 (steak sauce). Then I dipped out and ubered my way home. They continued drinking and hours later I received a phone call from my best friend. "Someone wants to talk to you," she said. She knows how deplorable I am with name so she said, "it's the one with the flower shirt." "I want to whisper sweet nothings in your ear," Mr. Vantrapp spoke smoothly into the borrowed phone. "Paha what?" " I'm related to the Von Trapp family." "From The Sound of Music? Get out! I love that movie." " Yep fought the Nazis and everything." I heard him smirking through the phone. "Oh really? Then where they from?" I spat slyly. "Germany." "No, it's an hour outside of Austria." "Naw-aw." "I know because I tried to sign up for the tour while I was in Europe 2 months ago." "Smart cookie, Stephanie. " "You don't know..." "I'm trying to." "How would your girl friend feel about that?" I spat. And THAT'S where the convo ended. I'm a huge on empathy. If I were in his girlfriend shoes, I would be pissed. That's emotional cheating. Plain as can be. Yes, I should have stopped the conversation sooner. But sometimes I'm flirt when I have a hankering for a little bit of attention. At least I acknowledge it, right? Well, he broke up with his girlfriend a couple days later and got my number from his friend. We've gone back and forth a couple times but I think I'm a little too feisty for him. He inquired of my plans for the day and I told him writing. Once he pried, I revealed scarce details about my blog to which he judged instantly. Said those haven't been relevant since the early 2000s. After schooling him on the relevance for aspiring writers, he got quiet. The conversation carried for a couple more minutes and then he hung up, like a 13 year-old girl. Okay bro. Don't worry, I learned things from the bad boy study. This guy was before that series of posts. Hopefully the next one won't be too bad... There's still one in the mix though, so don't hold your breath.... He's An Austrian Strudel... far away and dusted with bad boy lust
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Sorry for the hold up- WOAH THERE! I was busy dodging the bouquet at my beautiful cousin's wedding in Austin this weekend. No, for cereal though. There's pictures of my sister and I waiting until the flower bundle whizzed through the air until we "backed it up now y'all." I actually took some of the advice and heeded warning from the 60 responses I gathered from this poll series to avoid picking up a bad boy on my trip.... mission accomplished... this time. I'm a super visual person *moves hands in expression* and felt like this stellar bad boys series needs a conclusion with colors and Excel. #nerd #herecomethecharts #heheSNORThehe Obviously, this song defeats the purpose of this 4-part series but, I found it mildly appropriate and partially catchy.I've learned so much about the people that allowed me to interrupt their world to answer my little questions. They may not know it yet, but it has effected me in a big way. Thanks y'all.... from the bottom of my heart <3 And thanks for the new fans... if you're still there ;)) As for the day-ones.... We've been through a lotttttt of recipes and even more guys. Wish I could send you a care package of the greatest hits.... Hits to my self-esteem and waistline of course ;)) We've learned a bit in 360 posts!! EEEEEEE here's to 360 more! (It goes without saying that I have a drink handy for toasting ;) Now, compare this to the male perspective. I found this incredibly fascinating because guys were much quicker to respond and more of them offered responses. Was your quote one of the leading responses? Has your perception been altered? I still stand by mine... or rather, lounge by mine on the beach, doused in sunscreen and sand.Also, let the record show that while doing this poll, I received two comments confirming that these guys were indeed bad guys and a picture of a guy with a hard-on in his boxers. Don't worry, I'm going to spare you the visual. I wish I could spare myself! Another sent me a selfie of him shirtless and his bed saying that he was bored. People are unbelievable.
In continuation of the boy's view... I had to set the soundtrack to the tune of this peanut butter and JAM from back in the day! #youtubeitnowThis project with polling friends, strangers, crushes, ex-flings, ex-wanna-be-flings, guys I've never met, and people I've only met once and there was a high probability we were intoxicated has really opened up the avenue for expression. Some of these responses were 10X longer than the quote submitted.Some responses were "off the record" while others lasted deep into the night. The benefit from the raw responses is obscene, for me at least. I hope you've found some sort of enjoyment in them--- maybe even a tilt in perception?"Girls like excitement and different things excite them at different phases of their life. At some point for some people its hittin the club or jumpin on and off a jet. If they see someone that can facilitate what excites them it attracts them. Nice guys are mostly shy and respectful. Most of their moves are calculated and I'm assuming they're also focused on a goal or something passion related. This is not always exciting because it might mean not going out all the time, telling the girl at the bar you think she's gorgeous, or doing other whimsical things." "Maybe just cuz the girls are dumb 😂" "I started to portray bad guy tendencies because I was always the good guy. I think there is a balance. Just have to figure out what works." "Two possibilities spring to mind here. The first is that the women in question are just incredibly immature to the point that they still crave excitement over stability. The other option is that there is an inherent desire to build something with your partner. If the guy you’re dating doesn’t own anything other than the motorcycle he picks you up on and the clothes on his back you’ve got a blank slate if the guy you’re dating owns a house has a good full-time job and a great credit score you have to make your life fit into his." "Simple. Bad is fun, or it seems that way. The highs seem higher because the lows are so much lower... who doesn’t love adrenaline?" "Most girls tend to date assholes bc they want that tough guy. If a guy is too nice, they think, he's not tough- he can't protect me." "because bad boys trigger attraction in a woman subconsciously. they display certain qualities or the illusion of. a “good” guy doesn’t trigger attraction; things like being a leader of men, protector of loved ones,they also give masculine energy and embody it. Whereas, a good guy in this day and age is more in tune with feminine energy in a world where men are raised by women, it's not really shocking. A bad boy will take a pic of girl in lingerie. A good boy will ask before taking the pic. By asking, the women lose attraction immediately on such a deeper subconscious level." "I don't know, Steph. I asked myself that question all the time." "One thought is that original sin came from Eve...so naturally women gravitate toward the “badder” of the bad guys. But that would be only if I wanted to start an argument. 🤣" "I've tried to get girls to drop the bad boy type a few times." "So, for 6 years, I was the bad guy to a beautiful soul. It wasn’t so much that I was a “bad guy”, i just grew up super rough and it made me appreciate the fine things in life. Yeah, I was wild and crazy, but I loved that girl with everything that I had, and did everything I could to keep her happy. I was her first boyfriend, first kiss, first everything, and we worked. Not only would I have given up anything for her, I think the excitement of new things for her was an attraction. Our families never really got along, her family hated me for “ruining” their daughter, no matter how much we loved each other. It got to be way too stressful, so like an idiot, i broke things off." "I would have been considered a "bad guy" when i was a youngster. 19-24ish. Trying to speak in code here...i was living a fast paced life style with money and access to things. The allure of the unknown is what i would say is so intriguing to young people men and woman alike. Now that i am older the bad guy thing has an entirely diff meaning." "A beta male is insecure. He is always going to text you, going to tell you he loves you and are pretty with lines. An alpha male has a foundation and is always going to be there for you but not always remember to tell you he loves you. A bad boy is more like a betta that has no concern for anyone but himself. He doesn't care about your emotions or tailoring things to you and part of that is how are you were raised specifically in relation to your father's role. He'll only give you attention when he wants to, kind of like a cat. When the cat gives you attention, you're like oh my gosh this is so great let me pet you! But when you want to pet the cat, it's nowhere to be seen." “I’m guessing here... dating a ‘bad’ guy may represent higher social currency as bad guys are usually troubled or emotionally unavailable. Another theory may suggest people like projects and the idea of changing or helping a bad dude improve seems interesting." "Girls like a guy with an edge. "Bad" guys will get girls over a guy who is perceived as boring every time. Then girls wanna complain why they cant get a "good" guy." " I think women love the chase. I think everyone loves the chase. We all want what we can have. I think it starts off as maybe enjoying being around each other. I think also a lot of guys have got hurt and dont wanna deal with it again and they wont try. But they also wont communicate with you about it. We also live in a society where more is better. So why be monogamous when you can have a ton of bitches! Hahah. But those are my thoughts. Everyone is different and depends on the person." "Because people are inherently stupid?" "I'm gonna cop out and say I think it depends on the woman. The only "real" answer is that it gives them something they want. Maybe she's lonely, or doesn't like to be lonely so she just grabs the first guy who pays her real attention. Which is usually some "bad guy" who just wants to get laid steady. Or for the night lol. Sometimes they see "good guys" as boring and they want some excitement in their lives. The list is very very long because each woman is looking for a different thing, wether they realize it or not. I don't think a woman says "you know what, Melvin the Engineer is a boring guy, I'm going to go down to the club and find a jerk because at least there will be something of note in my life," but subconsciously they make decisions based on what benefits them/gives them whatever it is they're looking for." "Haha I am an ex-bad boy, I hung up my badness in 2013 I believe. I'm just old now haha. Most of the girls that dated me then was because i was unpredictable, adventurous, never dull and for a select few it was to piss off their parents basically. But those relationships are always short lived or they could be hardly classified as relationships. Mainly just summer flings. And most bad boys end up like me living a mundane existence and single lol unless they settle down early or continue to be fuckboys well into their 40s I'm that kinda middle ground I guess? " "That kinda brings up another topic. You can't control who you're attracted to, but you CAN control who you dwell on or invest time in. At what point does the "badness" outweigh that attractionIt could also be statistics, too. It sounds like there are a lot more bad boys out there than good guys, maybe the good/bad part is irrelevant and it's something unrelated that attracts someone. But since there are statistically more bad boys, there is a better chance of finding someone you're attracted to who happens to be a bad boy." "My theory is as follows: women are nurturers and have been since the beginning of time. When a "good girl" sees a "bad guy" they are attracted to them because it's not what they are used to...it's "exciting" I suppose. So as nurturers the "good girl" wants to tame the wild beast 😂 She wants to make him change his ways and show all the other females that she was the one to conquer the untamable. But the funny thing is people don't change unless they want to. So it usually ends up a big heartbreaky mess. So the moral of the story is you have to love someone for who they are, not what you want them to be." The sweet side of bad boys can be illustrated by a Snickers Drama Cheesecake. It will dance on your tatsebuds, never last as long as you want, and caters to your nutty side...A girl that can see what she's getting into and still indulge, truly is a degree of nuts (guilty as this chocolate covered sin). For the crust::
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https://www.handletheheat.com/snickers-cheesecake/ A continuation of why girls, the really great girls, fall for bad boys....Are we imprisoned by their edgy look and questionable ambition.... or is it something deeper?"Bad boys are genetically more fun. Who wants to follow the rules? There's just something so much more appealing to me. They dress better, they have a sleeve of tattoos, and if you're lucky, a motorcycle. My mom and sister said they too would love states for my current bad boy. Bad boys are naturally players and of your psyche, your ID is narcissistic, so these boys feed that sense of self. If you get the bad boy, you feel like the girl next door. " "I was heartbroken and he gave me enough attention and kind of made me feel like I was needed. Even though on you, deep down. It wouldn't go anywhere. I was in a place where he fit the bill. The one time I didn't want something long-term." Your standards aren't even there and you were needing somebody and they were there." " I was much younger than I am now and much less experience than I am now when these bad boys made their way into my life. I was such a good girl and a good girl wants a bad boy. I was 16 and he was a bad boy and all his friends were and I just felt safe and secure around him. They are kind of a forbidden fruit that you have to have. He was such a douche and I never really got it got what I wanted, but I kept going after it anyway. He was a nice guy but his lifestyle made him bad." I LOVED how genuine these responses were from the dozens of girls I polled. Some of their perspectives really hit me in the gut. It made me realize... there's another vantage point completely neglected....It's a man's world (still...don't get me started. I'll sit down...for now), so let's get a man's perspective on why the grandest of girls go for the baddest of boys."Honestly I think because they don’t know what it’s like to be treated by a guy that has good intentions." "Either she really really cares and loves him no matter or doesn't believe anyone that he is a bad guy at all.... and I couldn't tell you why girls like that stuff. " "Bc good guys are boring and having something to fix is easy to confuse with someone to build." "Girls like danger. A guy with an edge to him will always get the girl over a guy who is perceived to be boring." "I would say it stems from insecurities." "It’s an ego thing, people want what they can’t have. They try and Change people. I feel like a lot has to deal with perception and how we were raised.Love languages are important and I feel like personality traits play a part also." "Usually it's because at first they make them feel secure and loved and over time the guy tends to forget that he still needs to show love and stops and sees the girl is still with him even though he's a dick . He gets a taste of that and has no reason to change . The girl stays with him because she thinks deep down inside he will change." "Good guys are boring." "Eventually yes, they go for the “bad” guy. Whether that means he’s a jerk or just a style or how he treats her or just not Mr. RightIn my personal experiences no one is ever really ready to find what they are actually looking forSo when they do they sabotage it and more often then not rebound or run back to what’s comfortable or safe, and even though on paper the nice guy seems like the safe choice relative to the bad boy, the nice guy is actually far more scary because he’s something to lose, he can hurt the girl worse than any bad boy ever couldI spent the last 2 years in an on and off relationship with my absolute soul mate. Over the course of the 2 years she ran 3 times. The first time she told me she loved me. When we started living together. And after she asked me to go ring shopping and we picked out a ring and put money down on it.Each time lead to a panic attack, freak out, anxiety whateverShe’ll always come back to me cuz she knows I’m the guy for her, but when she gets everything she’s ever wanted she loses control, has something to lose, is vulnerableSo more often then not in our swipe first, fuck second, feelings later society when people find the right one (guys or girls) they find a way to sabotage itAnd then it compounds because everyone gets sick of being the one getting hurt. I went and did the rebound thing after the last time we split up and I’m sure I hurt some feelings in the process (even though I was 100% transparent).A nice guy isn’t gonna give you a reason to leave, he’s gonna treat you right and what if you get scared? What if you’re not ready for forever? Then what?" "In my opinion I’d have to say it’s some sort of thrill. Possibly connected to some sort of childhood trauma if you will. But if someone believes that all of their partners are bad then they will constantly seek out bad partners to justify their thinking." "Well first off im 1 of the good ones 😂 but always wondered the same thing and why its always the really really good looking girls that seem to have it all that go for that type of guy. The girl i am currently seeing almost 2 months now yaaay go me 😂 u do chat about past relationships and things and she had been with ex's in the past shall we say none of them good... and she knew that going into those relationships and i asked why would any girl do that to herself if she knows the guy is no good will cheat, use, or abuse or whatever... she said she thinks girls like that that go for guys like that want that kind of a 'project' challenge whatever u wanna call it and be the girl to make that guy change for her... make of that what u may 🤔🤔🤔🙄🙄🙄 its a mystery that may never be solved... bad boys will always be popular and not going out of fashion anytime soon 😂" "I believe girls tend to fall for bad guys because they might feel like they have an exclusive ticket to being a part of the “bad guy’s” emotional and loving side. Everyone loves having access to something that is rare and I feel like it’s the same deal with girls and “bad guys”, they get to see their emotional side." "It goes back to prehistoric times then women choose on how big and strong as well as how many wives and children he has as the bigger the family the better the chance ofsuccess when hunting for food this attraction is still in women's DNA." " I guess it’s exciting maybe?" "Personally I think woman get bored; they want excitement. They always think of what could be more and never wanna settle for good. Good isn’t good enough they need change something different something dangerous something to excite them." "It's actually kind of simple; they think the good guys are boring. I mean if a good guy gets up goes to work at a good job where he can sustain a future he doesnt have time to devote every waking moment to someone and bad guys have made women so insecure and other women and their hoeish tendencies help create more insecurities that if he is 10 mins later than normal coming in from work because he stayed later she is going to wonder what he is doing or who he is with. Plus a bad guys will give a false sense of security every woman wants to feel safe and a good guy doesn't give them that because it goes back to they feel they are boring because they don't push the envelope or have friends they shouldn't hangout with because they know they can get in trouble and potentially mess up their career and goals. Good guys do end up getting a good girl in the end because a real woman falls for a good man while girls fall for the bad boy." There's a handful of lovely quotes still to be shared... catch ya on the flip side #sunnyside^So, I've reached the point in my dating where I've said goodbye to WAY TOO MANY good guys. Guys most girls would kill for! Guys practically made for Disney princesses.... but.... I find excuses and exit clauses and I break it off, much faster than a kitkat (no, I didn't give them a break). Sure, I've got my sights on things much more significant for my future than a guy right now, sure I've said I haven't wanted to be tied down to anyone right now, but then BAM! I find myself chasing after guys with caution tape ALL over them:
Why great, established women indulge in relations with bad boysNice guys really finish last and I have proof. I polled 25 successful, beautiful, and charming women that, in my opinion HAVE IT ALL. The question: "Why did you give a bad guy the time of day when you know DAMN-WELL he's no good for you?""You want what you can't have. You know it's never gonna happen and it's satisfying." "Good at sex 10000% main reason" "I don't think I've dated bad guys. All the guys I can think of were pretty nice and good and I’m on good terms with a good chunk of them" "So the first time we ever hung out we drank a whole water bottle of tequila that he stole from his parents, all while we were driving around in a golf cart. We actually ended up dating for two-and-a-half years. He was hott, he was a grade above me, but there were so many red flags! At the time, I just thought it was a great freaking idea." "I was fresh out of a breakup and I met this guy at the State Fair. After clicking, he revealed that he had just been arrested and was on probation. I still pursued dating him. He had a nice car (even though he had no license), he was older, from out of town, and my favorite, was he was unlike anyone I've ever been attracted to. Then, after we broke up, I dated his friend. He was even older. Super cute, a firefighter in training, and was very hard to get. That was intriguing. I almost became obsessed with him even though I knew he would never be in a relationship with me." "This guy had his own apartment downtown and we only dated three weeks.... But three weeks was something. He took me to a movie that was about how to make a porno. It was really weird that he would do that with me being 16! I knew he was all wrong but, he was mysterious. He was outside of my school, so no one knew him. Part of me wanted to go through a bad phase. I liked him because he was different. Any bad boy I have encountered was because he was different." "Several bad boys! They weren't good people and didn't treat me well. Then again, they're not like me. You want them to be different and I was looking for different in the wrong places." "Well thats a loaded question. I think many girls want to push boundaries and get the rush that 'bad boys' give you. Those type of boys make you feel alive and you can be someone your not in all other aspects of your life. If all of your life has been safe it's fun to be with someone that's not 'safe.' It's kind of like knowing storms are dangerous, but you still like storms and even want to go out and play." "Wilson in high school was my irresistible bad boy, because he was so edgy and different and I wanted to shock my friends with an older man who went awol from the marines." "I think I always thought he would get better, like he would say sweet things and that meant he was capable of doing sweet things deep down. BOY WAS I WRONG." "I was into a guy that was arrested for drunk driving a car that didn't necessarily belong to him. But, I'd been single a long time and well... Needed to get laid. I feel like that's what bad boys come down to sometimes." "Bad guys play games. Like you really have to chase them. It's kind of like a competition with yourself if you can get him." "Hahha probably not a bad boy cause that's not my type but defffff someone who wasn't good for me. Ugh wanted it to work so bad even though I knew it was a bad idea" "I don't know how to answer. It just is an attraction..." "Bad boys were always interesting to girls who grew up with restricted households. We want that thrill and feel of "danger". But in the end, the quintessential "bad boy" was unreliable, most likey unemployed or constantly in between jobs, or had a disgusting living situation. After a while, they lose their wow factor and we move on. Or some of us don't because we think we can change them for the better." "This guy was homeless, lots of baggage, and had NO interest in any kind of a relationship. He stood me up at least once, yet was the best sex I've ever had and was soooo hott. I'm sure he still is hott..." "It just.... kinda happens." "Because you know it won’t last long term....So you let yourself indulge and get to experience it while you can. No one actually wants to settle down with the bad guy. They know he won’t last." "Ahh, that bad boy! They're aloof; they don't care about anything. His mom was having a party and said he guessed he could take me there at the spur of the moment. When they see you, they want you right there. No date, just instant." 4 more said they don't go for bad guys.... mhmm ;)) lol jk I've accounted for their absence of bad boys. So, I'd like to say that girls are completely innocent in bad boy rendezvous... but, we knew what we were getting into.Tip to 5***** Guys: The types of people we attract, says a lot about who we are. Do we gravitate toward.....
The sweetness we are drawn to alludes to our self-esteem, priorities, and rationalizations. The main types of people (guys or girls) we can be drawn to areSugar Sugar is simplicity at its finest. Honesty, transparency, and dependability. Very little risk or mystery; this sweet type ran all the bases and is safe. Without trying to, many of us fall into this. Sugar is notorious for being easy and is sometimes referred to as .... "basic" |
Yes, that is a hand-carved illustration of his heart rate the night we met. Hardly two weeks after meeting me. Every girl I've talked to about it, to ensure I wasn't just being a frozen tundra, reassured me that they would have dropped him like it was hot if they received something so.... intimate? before seriously dating that person for at least a year. A few girls that participated in my impromptu poll, said even a year is too soon if eva for something like that. |
One thing I noted in post number 1 of this series was that he downloaded Snapchat for the sole reason that I thoroughly enjoyed it and frequently use it. This should have been a warning sign. The last guy that downloaded Snapchat for the exact same reason used it against me; the time and nature of my posts were instrumental in tracking my whereabouts and dispelling my excuses for "not being on my phone."
A couple days after the wood gift he dropped off briefly after calling to see if he could drop by, I went out on another local's impromptu brewery tour and posted a few snaps portraying the cool places or beers. Ever since I visited Michigan to visit my long-term ex in 2015, I've been in LOVE with craft beers and breweries. While enjoying the drinks and snapping moments from this particular night in Pensacola, I didn't know I was opening the door for a drop-in visitor.
Mr. Woodstock told me the very next morning that he almost came out to the breweries I was at, but decided he didn't want to intrude on my plans. WHAT!? Who does that? Drive-by-shootings aren't just hazardous in the hood!
"Hi, nice to meet you! Is this your girlfriend?" His friend stated.
Mr. Woodstock responded, "well ye--"
"No," I said more curtly than I intended.
This drunk girl, moments later broke into laughter and pulled my best friend and I aside after him and I shared a kiss. "Is that your first kiss? First date?" She blurted.
My eyes met hers and I could only gather, "Umm.... No."
My best friend rolled her eyes and the drunk girl had her answer. She cackled all the way home....err back to her boyfriend.
...
I got sick later that night and he offered to come lay by me. I reminded him, my best friend and I were sharing a one bedroom, hence one bed. Then he offered to just sleep on the floor and play with my hair or pat my back to console me.
Without hesitation, I declined.
The next day, Easter morning, I went to brunch with my best friend and posted this on Snapchat. There's no time stamp or location stamp, but if you look closer, the drinks we're holding disclosed our location since they're very discernible glasses.
Mr. Woodstock, and 68 of my other followers viewed it.
Then, he showed up.
Although it could totally be a coincidence he showed up at the same bar we were having brunch after admitting he almost showed up to my brewery tour, this was the last straw.
Presently, I'm in an exit clause phase. There always has to be a visible exit-- an out. In this interaction, I no longer see that as a viable option. I'm currently in a sales position which has reasonable turnover rate, am in a month-to-month lease, and a mattress is my sole piece of furniture; I'm not looking to be contained. If need be, I can tetris what I can in my little, bitty Honda and drive off into the sunset. I'm not saying I will.... but the option is there.
Mr. Woodstock, on the other hand, is on an accelerated road towards something I'm presently not able to give him.... peace out, girlscout.
Will this 30 year old was sweet like syrup filling every compartment of your waffle. No I don't mean that pervertedly ... Way to go guys. Just kidding. He apps to meet any of your needs or at least address them. He was very transparent in his desires and ambitions and hurdles. He was raised a Boy Scout in which he recited the oath to me. "Wilderness explorer!" Or maybe that was Russell from "Up." If he were a Disney character, that's certainly who I would peg him as! He left the date idea to me by presenting three options. He had a bag in his car to accommodate each choice. I can't remember the other two choices but I selected the Fort Pickens option.
After lubing up with my SPF 100, good luck sun, we embarked and joined the 1 o'clock tour. About 15 minutes in, we ditched the tourists and meandered to an area built for a view but the ladder rungs were blocked. That didn't stop either of us. After exercising a little parkour that neither of us knew we, we made it to the top from breathtaking views. This word remind me a lot of villains in Charleston. Obviously I know much different Wars but, still u.s. history. There were several spots along the fort where he kissed me; quite romantic.
And he took me home and planned our next date. I was sure to make it clear, as always, that I was dating other people and he certainly made it clear he was only interested in dating me. It evoked a little bit of guilt I'm not really sure that it was intentional ... I'm such a guilt driven person .
I found that most appropriate for the recipe today. I also want to try in good old Pensacola since that's where he was born and raised so today's dessert is a Bushwacker.
Bushwacker
(makes 3)
2. oz Coconut Rum
2 oz. Vodka
2 Oz. Bailey’s
2 oz. Kahlua
2 oz. Amaretto
2 oz. Cream of Coconut
Chocolate Syrup
Pinch of Nutmeg
Drizzle chocolate syrup in a glass. Combine all ingredients in a blender, blend with ice, pour in the glass. Sprinkle with nutmeg
http://www.rumtherapy.com/2011/06/frozen-bushwackers/
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Chef Steph cooking up trouble. If she can't find anything real, she bakes real good sweets. Chocolate really may mend a broken heart...
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